No matter how loving and caring parent you may be, seeing your child in anger for a while might be enough to get your panic buttons pushed. Surely, it’s not a good thing in parenting. You want to keep your cool but, at the same time, you would also want your child to stay calm.
Nevertheless, tantrums are the part of a child’s life no matter how disciplined the child is. So, when your child starts making tantrum, you may want him to go into his room and stay inside until he becomes calm. This is one of the good practices that you can do when your child gets angry. This way, you will find it easier to get calm; meanwhile your child will also learn a few good lessons. Remember, you cannot just start teaching your child lesson and ask for an apology while he/she is angry.
But, sending your kid into the room wouldn’t help you in delivering the message about your disapproval over the anger, and that it’s not good for the child too. So, there are a few things that you will need to do for yourself before you are able to finally tell your kid that how bad it is to be angry.
Don’t get into fight or flight mode
While it may be easy to lose your cool and start making adult tantrums in response to the child’s tantrums, you really need to avoid it at any cost. So, the best thing you can do here is to take a few deeper breaths and have a belief that there is no emergency. When you do it successfully, your child will most likely follow the same course because he would feel safer from your act.
Listen and acknowledge
This is one of the undeniable facts that misunderstanding escalates bad situations. So, you need to make your child feel being understood by you. For this purpose, you can acknowledge your child by saying, “I understand what you are feeling right now, so why don’t we discuss about what you really want.”
Try to see things from child’s perspectives
An easy way to be more compassionate towards your child is to think about the things from your child perspective when he is angry. This way, you will be able to understand your child in the better way. Here, it’s worth mentioning that you don’t have to agree with your child every time. But, thinking by changing perspectives will let you tell your child about the unsuitability in fulfilling his desire in a better way.
Remember, tantrums do not ring emergency bells
Since children do not have developed frontal cortex, their control over emotions is not that good like adults. So, they always tend to make tantrums when they see anything going against what they want. If you understand this fact, you will be able to handle your angry children in much better way.